I get nervous (probably just some insecurity) that she might be talking to a new man, but I can say she has always been very upstanding, trustworthy and honest with me from day one and something I value about her. We were talking and she mentioned that you can still talk to me if you want, but if you dont want to thats fine and I understand . However, I need some space. Im expecting the worst to come since she has never messaged me other than condolence since my grandfather died. I hope you can book a coaching session with her so she can dive into this issue with you. I honestly dont know what to think or do she said we will still be loyal to eachother and belong to eachother but that for the time being she needs time to herself. Also, you mentioned you bought a house together and you may want something more. However, everything felt how it did earlier in the year, as if someone said something. Knowing she down stairs at the front desk. Are you confused about what you should do? Hi Apollonia this is an interesting one. I didnt understand and i feel like i was she choose a junkie over me. Apparently I didnt make any effort with them and about 2 months ago we started to not get on as well and were at each other more than normal. She said that she isnt breaking up with me and isnt using the break to slowly put me down. I know how hard this can be and Im so sorry are you able to get a coaching session with us so we can go into this more with you and guide you through this? Ive been in a relationship with her for about 4 years and a month to date. I even tried to get the kids to do something with me this weekend but she said they have plans. My girl said she needed space, time to herself because shes going through a rough patch. I would suggest not talking to her for 30 days and she can figure things out on her own. Best, doesnt she feel the same way and how is this possible that a girl who was telling me that she was missing me few days back now dont love me anymore? I just wanted to know what i could do, It was only 2 months ago when we were inseparable and were genuinely a very very in-love couple. Things moved so fast in the beginning weeks that we were spending just about every waking moment together. SMH biggest mistake that night we were both drunk and spoke. It seems as though you may be too needy and attached and this is why she asked for space. We would talk everyday, see each other when we were available. We agreed to take things slow being that we were both coming out of relationships, and I feel I pushed to hard. We have progressed the relationship by going on some domestic vacations and now booking to go away in October this year also being introduced to family and friends, on many occasions shes told me that she loves me and that Im the best guy shes been with by a clear mile! She wanted things to be discreet. We then linked back up twice and after her realizing how much she forgot how I treated her (queen). You focus on your work and I focus on surviving work and study at the same time because I cannot guarantee to be there for you and LDR needs so much effort i told her I understand im willing to take a step back if it helps you get your balance right now. Apollonia. Thank you for taking the time to read when she says she needs space. From that point forward she began to get down on herself, she started to state that it isnt fair to me that Im not getting the amount of love and attention I deserve. as well when I asked if she just wanted space or what, she mentioned that she just does not know what she wants and said we can chat if you want but if you dont want to thats fine and I understand. She couldnt say. Take this time to focus on you and put you first (whatever that is) if its the job then do it. Hi Gerry, Fast forward a couple months and I asked her after now 4 months of the engagement being broken, if she would want to make things work. Here are the key things you need to know this morning: There was a fire at an oil reservoir in Crimean city of Sevastopol yesterday after an apparent drone strike; Another month goes by and I reached out again and said I hope everything is going well for at work and school. I understand this could be the reason why she was afraid but she often initiated those serious conversations. my family requested for all of the engagement gifts along with the ring I gave her, to be returned. Or with messages but no meet ups, or totally no contact? Id assume women usually just have a week or two in mind most of the time. She also said that as I dont eat pork, bacon etc she felt that it wasnt something that she was comfortable with and didnt want to feel that she had to stop eating this which was something that again she said at the beginning of the relationship that she wasnt fussed about eating or continuing with. While I dont help her with everything, I give her rides places and help her with her emotions through text. There has to be a balance between anything in the relationship but also if your partner says she does need space, you have to give her that space. Maybe because of my temper? Come to an agreement. The first article What It Means When Your Partner Says I Need Space! said to show up. We se ach other almost everyday after work, grab some food and talk for hours and sometimes have a wonderful sex. She has since initiated texts asking how I am and Ive asked her about some future dates we had booked in. Not anyone elses. But on the issue she said to me that when I do borrow money from her I should atleast try and repay well according to me right now for the past five months ive had no job but still searching so means of paying her back is close to zero. She loves me. Give her the space and fill your time with finding your hobbies, the things you enjoy. Hi there, I been with my common law partner for 9 years she been my best friend and me hers, Weve had out fair share of conflicts but the the straw was when we\ I was going through a little trust issue with the men at her work so on day she approached me and asked if we had plans to go to the movies on Saturday ( cought me by surprise as its not something we do), I said no and she said well then im going to go play poker from 2 pm til 11 pm with the guys (men) from work, I did not say no but did say I thought it was inappropriate for a spouse to do that unless I was at the least invited (I was not invited), she decided not to go, then the Sunday said she was leaving me and needed her time. I asked her again if we were breaking up she said no oh, I asked her again if she love me she said yes but she doesnt want to be with any man right now she just wants to focus on her and her babies that she doesnt need a man in her life right now. Its interesting because weve been really close she started working with me and particularly over the past 3 months. Establish some healthy boundaries together.Mc khc. Please let me know what options I should take. I find it interesting that she replied the second time I reached out. She used to a lot What I would suggest is to figure out what made the both of you break up and start from there. I talked to her mom right after because she was outside and she told me she was stressed out because shes on probation and for me to just avoid contact for a while. I have been slowly working on changing my attitude with my struggles and am starting to incorporate some positive behaviors. A lot of people fail because they focus on no contact and not change. What would I do? It seems like there is a big sense of control here. Just head to: https://www.apolloniaponti.com/products/, We appreciate your support and look forward to working with you! It seems its hard for either one to just leave. when something imp then she responding otherwise not .. She blocked me from various social media and her phone. She said she still loves me by heart but her head tells her to break up and move on. She responded saying she gets that and that Im more than welcome to come to her church with her, but that she thinks its better for her to not see me for a bit just as a way for her to clear her mind. So who are you to question me like this? She sat in the car with me and began crying saying she hates her job and where she lives and her car is damaged and stuff I told her to not worry about the small things and just stay focused on her self and be happy with everything she has in life. But I also know she wouldnt cheat on me or anything, the same how I would not do that to her (shes been cheated on by her previous BFs). I really love her. She does have a low sex drive and she mentioned that we dont have time for it because we are busy working full time and school or dont have a place to do it. I DO want to turn things around. She needs to see strength in you if she is going to move across the country to live with you. I know Apollonia would love to help you with your situation but she would need more information about what youre going through in order to advise you properly. We teach people how to treat us. This is where you will learn everything about attraction and women. One day i sent her flowers and she requested that she needed space with out talking to sort her feelings if we would ever have a chance in the future. In fact, its the only choice I have right now I guess. She was my staff but a few months ago ttansfered to another company. Yes, letting her have space but also focusing on you and moving forward instead of backward. Now i do want to marry her however the kids part is something yes i want but i also want her which i value more right now. Apollonia, Hi so Ive been dating this girl for just over 4 months, the first 3 months we had a ton of contact, these past 2 weeks tho she has started to distance herself from me and not really talk about whats going on, she has been saying she wants to be alone lately but every time she does she ends up texting like 5 hours later just saying hi, by the end of the night like 10 she does have convos with me and she tells me some things abt her day, she says its been stressful managing school, family and other things, she said she feels alone sometimes and needs some time for her self, she did open up to me yesterday, her parents are divorced and are constantly fighting and wanting each other in jail and her brother has suicidal tendencies, she has been hanging with her friends a ton more, not going out but going to their house, she has been drinking a ton more and sometimes smoking weed a lot more, she never really used to do that, she has been feeling sick these past 2 weeks and lightheaded and I feel like its not really a cold just more from anxiety and stress, but overall I have given her more space and sometimes we talk abt whats going on with her but she kinda avoid the question, I did reassure her that I am always here, and I want to help her through these rough times and she said thank you, what do you think is going on, oh and she recently visited a guy friend and went to his house, she told me that theyre really only friends because she helped him through his tough time when he tried to hang himself, they used to date like 2 years ago for a couple of months, Im not really worried abt it I just wanna know if thats normal, Im just confused and wanna know what to do. Hello Jacob, And She blocks some of my accounts, but she just unblocked my message one, what should I do with that because I do not know whether she doesnt unblock on purpose or she just forget. This article tells me what I want to actually do, that often times I dont have the strength to do because I fear growing apart. two months ago i reached out to her and we were having a nice conversation we didnt speak about a relation(shes single), but one week ago she opened her facebook and found that i have sent her a message with a (faux compte) 3 months ago telling her i miss her ext ( i dont know if she knew that it is me who sent her the message). Sex is good, can get sex anywhere. Get involved in activities to meet people and go to the gym etc. Many thanks. there is a girl we were in a 4 years good relationship like there was an enormous amount of love and care. So sorry for the inconvenience. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/OvercomeNeedinessSeminar Did I mess up the situation by texting her at all? My emotions immediately took over and I began to beg and plead for her not to do that. I understand shes hurt and shes asking for space but what am I suppose to do?? Should I text her after 1 week? I would step back and let her come to you. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/masteryourconfidence Hi Smith, I would recommend booking a coaching session here. Best, I would encourage you to book a session here. I owe her alot. Our conversations are less frequent and a bit more awkward, but Im really anxious for her. Any tips or advise as Im giving her space but feel shes not missing me as she sees me every day in the office ? All I know she is trying her hardest to avoid me right now. Im not sure what I should do to save it but Im not sure if we actually broke up or just on a break. Its now been two days and Ive not heard a single thing which tbh I thought I would of atleast got a text the night I left asking if I got home alright but so far nothing! Apollonia. etc. Apollonia. Thank you for reading my blog about when she says she needs space. I believe right now you should not be available if a woman is going to give her time to another man on your watch. From all of this shes reached out to me once about a second job she got I congratulated her and left it at that. I would suggest focusing on you and how your life is and what areas you can improve on for balance. Apollonia. Im really depressed and paranoid at the same time. This is the only way that you will be able to attract her back into your life. I overheard she was single and made myself known. I wish you all the best. Should i send her subtle messages or anything like that? do you think she will ever reach out for me again ? Last time she was visiting me she felt smothering about my country, so she went back a week early. Me and my girlfriend are taking a step back and giving each other space. Again, do not hang on to her, be depressed, act desperate or be afraid because in the end this is not attractive to a woman and will only pull her away even more. Thanks for your comment. In the meantime, focus back on yourself! And then I got its not about other men. Admittedly she said she was unhappy in herself so was snappy and she is in her final year in uni so has added stress with assignments to do etc. My email you can find on the coaching page. Apollonia. Please book a session here. I would suggest keeping your distance and not being there for her as much as you use to. Im no longer texting or calling or anything. Best. Your faith is important to you and she knows that, but this does not mean that she has to take your energy for you to prove that youre good enough for her. The reason for why she needs some time i asked her she said i m adjusting and compromising the things bcz of her in my life which she says you dont need to compromise or adjust. What is going on? We ended up being in the same country for holidays and she refused to see me, we only met at a cafe by accident and I spoke to her. Listen & Dont Put Pressure On HerIf this seems like a no shit, Sherlock statement to you, congratulations. Youre smarter than 90% of guys out there.Give Her The Time She WantsTheres an old saying you should take to heart. No but seriously. When she asks for space, give it to her on her terms.Figure Out Why She Wants SpaceIf shes already told you why she wants to step back, then you can skip this step. But if she hasnt, and youre still Apollonia. We are studying in the same school, same module, same course, its just hard to play it cool 24/7. I definitely dont think this is the end. 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